Monday, July 9, 2012

Talks on the Temple

Danielle and Steve gave talks in their new ward in Prescott, AZ on Sunday. Here are there talks:


Temple Talk (Danielle)

Introductions: Steve grew up in Orem, UT and served a mission to St. Louis MO. I grew up in St. George, UT and served in the Wash DC North mission in the temple Visitors Center. Met at BYU while living in the same ward. We met in May, first date in June and got engaged in June, Married in August. Four years of dental school in Portland, had Alexa who is 3 and expecting a baby boy at the end of August.

Temple blessings are our ultimate goal.

First of all, how lucky are we to have temples on the Earth at this time? I love the restored gospel.

Stories... How important is the temple to us? What sacrifices am I making to attend?

My grandma, who turns 80 this month, is a great example to me of how important temple blessings are. She had a goal when she was 16 to go to the temple. Here is her story in her words:

"When I was sixteen, I wanted to go to the temple to receive my own endowments. We lived in Kentucky at the time and the nearest temple was the Salt Lake Temple. I didn’t know anyone my age who had been, but I went to my Branch President and inquired. He wasn’t sure what age you could go, so he said he would check with the District President and let me know. The District President wasn’t sure either, so he checked with the Mission President in Louisville, Kentucky. The Mission President told him that President George Albert Smith was coming to the area in a few months, he would find out from him. About two months later, I received a call from the mission home, they told me that if I could be there on Sunday, President Smith would interview me. Aunt Ina drove me up and I met President Smith after conference. He took me in to an office and we talked. I was so nervous, I don't remember much about the interview, he began by asking me why I wanted to go to the temple. I told him that someday I wanted to be married in the temple, and that there were six girls my age in our little branch and only one boy. That four of the girls had already been married to non-member boys, one had been married and divorced already and that I felt that if I could get my own endowments, it would help me to stay strong and wait for someone who would take me to the temple. He must have asked me the usual questions they ask during a temple interview, but all I can remember is how kind and gentle he was. We talked over an hour and then he shook my hand and said “Sister Hatton, you may go to the temple!”

My grandma then made the long drive across the states with her family to SLC. They were all sealed together and my grandma received her endowment. She and my grandpa were later married in the temple and had 9 kids and now have close to 70 grand kids. Many temple marriages have resulted from her desire to receive the temple blessings.
When I think of sacrificing for the blessings of the temple I can't help but think of the early saints who gave so much to build such precious buildings.

From the book, Our Heritage, which is part of the missionary library:

Only 15 months after founding Nauvoo, the First Presidency, obedient to revelation, announced that the time had now come “to erect a house of prayer, a house of order, a house for the worship of our God, where the ordinances can be attended to agreeable to His divine will.” Though poor and struggling to provide for their own families, Latter-day Saints responded to their leaders’ call and began donating time and means toward constructing a temple. More than 1,000 men donated every tenth day in labor. Louisa Decker, a young girl, was impressed that her mother sold her china dishes and a fine bed quilt as her temple contribution. Other Latter-day Saints gave horses, wagons, cows, pork, and grain to aid in the temple’s construction. The women of Nauvoo were asked to contribute their dimes and pennies for the temple fund.

Caroline Butler had no pennies or dimes to contribute, but she wanted very much to give something. One day while going to the city in a wagon, she saw two dead buffalo. Suddenly she knew what her temple gift could be. She and her children pulled the long hair from the buffaloes’ manes and took it home with them. They washed and carded the hair and spun it into coarse yarn, then knitted eight pairs of heavy mittens that were given to the rock cutters working on the temple in the bitter winter cold.

Mary Fielding Smith, wife of Hyrum Smith, wrote to Latter-day Saint women in England, who within a year gathered 50,000 pennies, weighing 434 pounds, that were shipped to Nauvoo. Farmers donated teams and wagons; others sold some of their land and donated the money to the building committee. Many watches and guns were contributed. The Saints in Norway, Illinois, sent 100 sheep to Nauvoo to be used by the temple committee.

Brigham Young remembered: “We did much hard labor on the Nauvoo temple, during which time it was difficult to get bread and other provisions for the workmen to eat.” Still, President Young counseled those in charge of temple funds to give out all the flour they had, confident that the Lord would provide. Within a short time Joseph Toronto, a recent convert to the Church from Sicily, arrived in Nauvoo, bringing with him $2,500 in gold, which he laid at the feet of the Brethren. These life savings of Brother Toronto were used to replenish the flour and to purchase other much needed supplies.

JS Revelations:

Shortly after the Saints arrived in Nauvoo, the Lord revealed through the Prophet Joseph Smith that baptisms could be performed for dead ancestors who had not heard the gospel (see D&C 124:29–39). Many Saints took great comfort in the promise that the dead might have the same blessings as those who accept the gospel here on earth.
The Prophet also received an important revelation concerning the teachings, covenants, and blessings that are now called the temple endowment. This sacred ordinance was to enable the Saints “to secure the fullness of those blessings” that would prepare them to “come up and abide in the presence of … Eloheim in the eternal worlds.” After receiving the endowment, husbands and wives could be sealed together by the power of the priesthood for time and all eternity...

Why would these Saints work so hard to complete a building they would soon leave behind? Almost 6,000 Latter-day Saints received their endowments before leaving Nauvoo. As they turned their eyes toward their western migration, they were bolstered in faith and secure in the knowledge that their families were eternally sealed together. Tear-stained faces, ready to move on after burying a child or spouse on America’s vast prairie, were resolute largely because of the assurances contained in the ordinances they had received in the temple.

Thankfully, people all over the world are being blessed by having temples built close to them. President Monson, in the April 2011 conference, shared examples of this blessing. President Monson said:
The goal President Joseph F. Smith hoped for in 1902 is becoming a reality. Our desire is to make the temple as accessible as possible to our members.

One of the temples currently under construction is in Manaus, Brazil. Many years ago I read of a group of over a hundred members who left Manaus, located in the heart of the Amazon rain forest, to travel to what was then the closest temple, located in São Paulo, Brazil—nearly 2,500 miles (4,000 km) from Manaus. Those faithful Saints journeyed by boat for four days on the Amazon River and its tributaries. After completing this journey by water, they boarded buses for another three days of travel—over bumpy roads, with very little to eat, and with nowhere comfortable to sleep. After seven days and nights, they arrived at the temple in São Paulo, where ordinances eternal in nature were performed. Of course their return journey was just as difficult. However, they had received the ordinances and blessings of the temple, and although their purses were empty, they themselves were filled with the spirit of the temple and with gratitude for the blessings they had received. Now, many years later, our members in Manaus are rejoicing as they watch their own temple take shape on the banks of the Rio Negro. Temples bring joy to our faithful members wherever they are built.

President Monson continues: Why are so many willing to give so much in order to receive the blessings of the temple? Those who understand the eternal blessings which come from the temple know that no sacrifice is too great, no price too heavy, no struggle too difficult in order to receive those blessings. There are never too many miles to travel, too many obstacles to overcome, or too much discomfort to endure. They understand that the saving ordinances received in the temple that permit us to someday return to our Heavenly Father in an eternal family relationship and to be endowed with blessings and power from on high are worth every sacrifice and every effort.

Today most of us do not have to suffer great hardships in order to attend the temple. Eighty-five percent of the membership of the Church now live within 200 miles (320 km) of a temple, and for a great many of us, that distance is much shorter.

If you have been to the temple for yourselves and if you live within relatively close proximity to a temple, your sacrifice could be setting aside the time in your busy lives to visit the temple regularly. There is much to be done in our temples in behalf of those who wait beyond the veil. As we do the work for them, we will know that we have accomplished what they cannot do for themselves...

If you have not yet been to the temple or if you have been but currently do not qualify for a recommend, there is no more important goal for you to work toward than being worthy to go to the temple. Your sacrifice may be bringing your life into compliance with what is required to receive a recommend, perhaps by forsaking long-held habits which disqualify you. It may be having the faith and the discipline to pay your tithing. Whatever it is, qualify to enter the temple of God. Secure a temple recommend and regard it as a precious possession, for such it is.

Until you have entered the house of the Lord and have received all the blessings which await you there, you have not obtained everything the Church has to offer. The all-important and crowning blessings of membership in the Church are those blessings which we receive in the temples of God.

I'm so grateful for a living prophet...

One of my favorite prophets from the Book of Mormon has also helped me realize the importance of the temple for my family. Nephi and his family were receiving guidance from the Lord about how to build a ship to get to the promised land. But as I read closely, I realize that we can use these instructions to help us "build" our families so we can make it back to live with our Heavenly Father together. As I read, please compare the timbers of the ship to our family members:

In 1 Nephi 18:1-4 Nephi says,
1 And it came to pass that they did worship the Lord, and did go forth with me; and we did work timbers of curious workmanship. And the Lord did show me from time to time after what manner I should work the timbers of the ship.
2 Now I, Nephi, did not work the timbers after the manner which was learned by men, neither did I build the ship after the manner of men; but I did build it after the manner which the Lord had shown unto me; wherefore, it was not after the manner of men.
3 And I, Nephi, did go into the mount oft, and I did pray oft unto the Lord; wherefore the Lord showed unto me great things.
4 And it came to pass that after I had finished the ship, according to the word of the Lord, my brethren beheld that it was good, and that the workmanship thereof was exceedingly fine; wherefore, they did humble themselves again before the Lord.

I know that the Lord will help us and our families...

Make the temple our ultimate goal.

Do our families know how important the temple is?

Testify...
 
Temple Blessings Talk 7/8/12 (Steve)

Based on Elder Richard G. Scott: Temple Worship: The Source of Strength and Power in Times of Need


1.      Go to temple to get blessings
·         D & C 130: 20-21 - All blessings based on obedience
·         Difficulty attending temple?-set a goal
ü  Elder Scott: Because I love you, I am going to speak to you heart to heart, without mincing words. I have seen that many times individuals have made great sacrifices to go to a distant temple. But when a temple is built close by, within a short time, many do not visit it regularly. I have a suggestion: When a temple is conveniently nearby, small things may interrupt your plans to go to the temple. Set specific goals, considering your circumstances, of when you can and will participate in temple ordinances. Then do not allow anything to interfere with that plan. This pattern will guarantee that those who live in the shadow of a temple will be as blessed as are those who plan far ahead and make a long trip to the temple.
ü  Things will get in your way-don't allow anything to get in the way
ü  Furthest I have ever been from a temple
·         Suggestions for more meaningful temple service  
            1. Understand the doctrine related to temple ordinances, especially the       significance of the Atonement of Jesus Christ. 1
         2.  Leave sufficient time to be unhurried within the temple walls.
3. Rotate activities so that you can participate in all of the ordinances of   the temple.
      4. Remove your watch when you enter a house of the Lord.
      5. Be mindful of the individual for whom you are performing the vicarious ordinance.  At times pray that he or she will recognize the vital importance of the ordinances and be worthy or prepare to be worthy to benefit from them.

2.  Temple blessings

         A. Hope and Faith in Jesus Christ:

         I would like to relate the experience of an ancestor of my wife.  Her name is Sarah DeArmon Pea Rich. Her commentary shows the impact that the temple can have in our lives. When she was 31 years old, she received a calling from Brigham Young to work in the Nauvoo Temple, where all the ordinances possible were performed before the Saints had to abandon that temple. This is what she wrote:
         “Many were the blessings we had received in the house of the Lord, which has caused us joy and comfort in the midst of all our sorrows and enabled us to have faith in God, knowing He would guide us and sustain us in the unknown journey that lay before us. For if it had not been for the faith and knowledge that was bestowed upon us in that temple by the influence and help of the Spirit of the Lord, our journey would have been like one taking a leap in the dark. To start out on such a journey in the winter as it were and in our state of poverty, it would seem like walking into the jaws of death. But we had faith in our Heavenly Father, and we put our trust in Him feeling that we were His chosen people and had embraced His gospel, and instead of sorrow, we felt to rejoice that the day of our deliverance had come.”

         B. Peace
                    
                     a. Time away from the world
                     b. Reminder of better things
                     c. Elder Scott put it this way: What I am trying to teach is that when we keep the temple covenants we have made and when we live righteously in order to maintain the blessings promised by those ordinances, then come what may, we have no reason to worry or to feel despondent.
                     d. This "worry" he speaks of is not just spiritual worry, but the temporal worries we have as well.  Jesus Christ himself taught this principal in Matt. 6: 25-34

         C. Revelation

                     a. 1 Nephi 11:1
                     b. Brother of Jared gives of a little more insight into receiving revelation from the Lord during temple service: Ether 3: 1,2,4

         D. Eternal Families

                        a. A principal known by all, but only taught and authorized by the church.
                     D&C 132: 18-19 and D&C 131: 1-4
                       
                        b.  Fourteen years ago the Lord took my wife beyond the veil. I love her with all my heart, but I have never complained because I know it was His will. I have never asked why but rather what is it that He wants me to learn from this experience. I believe that is a good way to face the unpleasant things in our lives, not complaining but thanking the Lord for the trust He places in us when He gives us the opportunity to overcome difficulties.
We had the blessing of having children. A daughter, the first child, continues to be an enormous blessing in our lives. A couple of years later a son we named Richard was born. A few years later a daughter was born. She died after living only a few minutes.
Our son, Richard, was born with a heart defect. We were told that unless that could be cured, there was little probability that he would live more than two or three years. This was so long ago that techniques now used to repair such defects were unknown. We had the blessing of having a place where doctors agreed to attempt to perform the needed surgery. The surgery had to be done while his little heart was beating.
The surgery was performed just six weeks after the birth and death of our baby daughter. When the operation finished, the principal surgeon came in and said it was a success. And we thought, “How wonderful! Our son will have a strong body, be able to run and walk and grow!” We expressed deep gratitude to the Lord. Then about 10 minutes later, the same doctor came in with an ashen face and told us, “Your son has died.” Apparently the shock of the operation was more than his little body could endure.
Later, during the night, I embraced my wife and said to her, “We do not need to worry, because our children were born in the covenant. We have the assurance that we will have them with us in the future. Now we have a reason to live extremely well. We have a son and a daughter who have qualified to go to the celestial kingdom because they died before the age of eight.” That knowledge has given us great comfort. We rejoice in the knowledge that all seven of our children are sealed to us for time and all eternity.
            E. Story of Anthony Leggett if I need to fill more time- acted as escort for one of my converts
            F.  I leave you with the questions that Elder Scott posed in his talk: What is there that is more important than attending and participating in the ordinances of the temple? What activity could have a greater impact and provide more joy and profound happiness for a couple than worshipping together in the temple?





                    

           

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Andrew's talk at Stake Conference Priesthood Leadership Session

Andrew was asked to give a talk to the men at the Priesthood Leadership meeting:


I would like to share with you my perspective as a Youth how I have been taught how to serve from my Young mens leaders. I have been blessed to have had such good leaders that have taught me how and why they serve. Being in Young mens I have heard many lessons on service and charity: however, what speaks to me louder than their words is their examples. By their examples of showing genuine love to our quorum, it shows me what I want to strive to do in my own life.
            One example that stands out to me is when our teachers quorum went on our weeklong campout. Kevin Callahan and Mike Allred prepared for this outing months prior to it ordering throwing knives, grocery shopping, and making sure we were prepared camp. I was amazed to see how much effort they put into it even though they knew they were risking their lives taking me and a dozen other teachers up on Boulder Mountain with sharp objects in our possession.
My scout leaders had put in a lot of time and effort and it turned out to be a fun and successful scout camp.
President Uchtdorf told this story about when he was a young man in last conference.   ……………………………           
Like President Uchtdorf said, I think it is important to understand why we get called to do service.  Not only is service obeying the lords first commandment of loving out neighbors, but it makes you feel good while doing it. Some of the more meaningfull service projects I have done with my quorums are ones that weren’t necessarily planned, but ones that the boys saw someone in need and we all agreed that we should help out whoever was in need.
            As you look for opportunities for your quorums to do service, don’t be afraid to let us as young men get out of our comfort zones. During last fall’s general conference, President Eyring shared a story about this:……………………….

 (Being asked as a young teacher to go with the Bishop to fulfill an assignment)
 
I think that by showing the youth how to serve by example, allowing them to lead out on their own to find opportunities for service, and letting us get out of our comfort zones, you will get a unified quorum that wants to serve.
            On top of being an example of serving to your young men’s groups, I think it is very important that you are an example of service to your families and your sons. I hear my priest quorum leaders: brother Luekenga, brother Clark, and brother West telling about their sons playing sports and all the time they donate to help them and support them. They are an example of how I should serve my family. 
            My dad is also a great example of giving service. Last weekend me and my dad were helping the deacons and teachers quorums with their camp outs. We got back Saturday and decided to go boating at the lake. We loaded up and drove by our neighbor who was landscaping his front yard. I saw that he could use help but kept quiet because I wanted to go to the lake, but then my dad said "the lake can wait boys,  we better help!”  So  my dad turned the truck around and we stopped and helped dig holes for our neighbors plants he was putting in. I look back now and am grateful that we could help out our neighbor and still be able to go to the lake.

Thursday, May 3, 2012

The Funnel Principle

Agency and accountability are precious gifts from the Lord

http://www.ldschurchnews.com/articles/62267/Agency-and-accountability-are-precious-gifts-from-the-Lord.html


The Funnel Principle

In her April 2012 Spring Auxiliary Leadership Training, Sister Elaine S. Dalton taught "The Funnel Principle," demonstrating that agency is not free and comes with consequences.
Sister Dalton taught that Satan says, "Try everything! Youth is a time to live it up, to be young, to be happy, to be carefree!" What Satan does is like a funnel, only it's an upside down funnel with a broad base. He urges youth to try it all, now! When they do this they narrow down their options in the future. They start suffering the consequences of poor choices they've made and their future choices and opportunities are limited — their freedom is limited.
When youth live the standards and walk the narrow path, they turn that funnel right side up, the way we use it. Walking the narrow way at the bottom, staying strict with ourselves, exercising control and discipline, opens countless opportunities and options. They become, or remain, free.

I shared this principle at our Young Women Leadership meeting in April. I also shared it with my school classes. I really think that it is powerful. 

Monday, November 14, 2011

How to Anchor Youth in Turbulant Times--Stake Conference Talk

When Pres. Ricks called me and asked me to speak tonight, I was in a Philadelphia hospital welcoming my 2nd grandchild into this world-- an uncertain, troubled world that has parents today concerned for the future of their children.

I have the opportunity to teach at Millcreek High School, the alternative high school for our district.

A few weeks ago students were talking in my class and one young lady commented that she was born “high”. Several of us asked what she meant by that. She said that on the way to the hospital her mother was in labor pain and her grandmother rolled a joint for her and her expecting mother smoked it. So yes, as a baby she was born high! That’s nothing, another boy spoke up, I was born in prison. He went on to explain that his mother was incarcerated for a federal offence, and yes she actually delivered him in prison!

Both of these examples are a pretty tough way to start this life. In contrast to being born “high” or in prison most of us were blessed to be ‘born in the covenant’ and our children were lucky enough to be born in the covenant.

Children born to parents who have been sealed in the temple are born in the covenant. These children automatically become part of an eternal family. Children who are not born in the covenant can also become part of an eternal family once their natural or adoptive parents have been sealed to one another in the temple.

I am so blessed to be privileged to work with the outstanding youth and their leaders in our stake. We have magnificent youth, who are flourishing despite the turbulent and even toxic times we live in.

As the Young Women stand and recite their theme each week they state that they will “make and keep sacred covenants, receive the ordinances of the temple and enjoy the blessings of exaltation”.

So what are their covenants? Last Sunday I was able to attend the beautiful sacred baptism of three 8 year old boys from our ward. They were prepared and knew all of the answers when quizzed. Most of us have entered the waters of baptism and taken these covenants. Now each Sunday we have the opportunity to renew these covenants as we reflect on our week and resolve to do better. We covenant to “ Always remember him and to keep his commandments.”

We in turn are promised that we MAY always have his spirit to be with us. The key word here is MAY. It does not say we will, but we have the opportunity and if we have the desire for it, and if we live worthy of his spirit. What a blessing this can be in our life to “Always have his spirit to be with us”.

If you’ve ever not had his spirit at a time of contention or sin, you realize what a great blessing it is. One morning last week, I was at school and things just weren’t going well. I couldn’t figure out what was wrong. Then I realized that I had forgotten to say my morning prayers. I have this little routine that I do every morning, and my routine had gotten thrown off a bit that morning. Having the faith and desire to have the Lord’s help that day, I closed my eyes and offered my morning prayer at my desk. Amazingly enough, my day turned around and I actually had a fabulous day. Yes, I covenant each Sunday that I May always have his spirit to be with me because I know I need his guidance in my life.

On Fast Sunday in my ward, the young people get up and share examples of how the Lord has blessed their lives through prayer. Have we taught our children to pray daily and seek his guidance? I’ll never forget this visual picture I have of my Son Dawson, dressed in his tuxedo and ready for his Prom date and as I walked past his room just before he left, I saw him kneeling and offering a prayer. I didn’t worry about him at all on that date because I knew that he had invited the spirit on that date.

Just as the Lord provided the Liahona to the people of Nephi’s time to guide them; he provides a prophet to guide us. Through modern revelation we can be led to ‘the more fertile parts’ as it states in Nephi 16:16. We will get through this life one way or another; wouldn’t it be better to have the guidance of our leaders to make the trip easier.

I testify that our prophet gives us direction for our times. For example, the Proclamation on the Family, how our world has needed this as of late. The strength of Youth Pamphlet is a blueprint for our youth, we have temples that dot the earth, the Virtue Value was added as the world has lost all manner of Virtue. Yes, our prophets are the Liahona of our time.

I would like to enlist your help to anchor our youth to the hope and strength of the gospel in these turbulent times; Sister Elaine Dalton in the last general conference even went so far as to call them Toxic times. As parents, grandparents, brothers and sisters we must all be on board to help.

Sis. Dalton has asked each young woman to read from the book of Mormon daily. I am attempting to do this as well and have recently started in 1st Nephi again. Interestingly enough, I had decided to study and record the covenants and promises that the Lord gives in the book of Mormon as I read. I believe that God keeps his word and I am fascinated by the promises that are tied to keeping the commandments and covenants. Promises such as “ye shall prosper” and that “he doth nourish them, and strengthen them and provide means whereby they can accomplish the things which he has commanded them.” I want to have the blessings of these promises in my life. If we do our part, the Lord is bound. When we do what he says, we have his promise. When we start to understand the glory and safety, promised if we keep the commandments and our covenants we should surely be more motivated to do so.

I am so grateful for goodly parents who have taught me faith and shown by their example how these blessings can be realized. When I was young, my parents clung to the prophet’s words to have family scripture study and Family Home Evening knowing that there was a promise to those who did.

In their retired years they have headed the prophet’s call to serve a mission and have since worked in the Logan temple weekly for 12 years. I bear witness that our families have been blessed through their service. Grandparents, there is much you can do to help your grand children through heeding the call to serve a mission, work in the temple and do Family History work. Read and ponder the blessings that are promised to your families when you do. I’m sure that many of you can also testify of this truth.

Invite your teenage grandkids to have lunch with you one on one. Write them a sweet note encouraging them. Tell them the story of how you fell in love with your eternal companion so many years ago. They need to hear your story of dating and romance. Let them know reality isn’t Hollywood vampire romances and Kirdashion love drama.

My kids love to hear Grandma Flake tell the story of how she fell in love with her future husband when she heard him bear his testimony for the first time.

Last Sunday I attended the Meadow Valley YW Night of Excellence. The girls had chosen a scripture and a black and white theme. They taught that you have to avoid the gray areas; there is only black and white, goodness and sin. The divide has grown wider. You cannot sit on the fence or get dangerously close to the line of sin.

So how can we help anchor our Youth in a turbulent world?

1. Parents and Leaders-- have your youth write down their standards. In Sis. Daltons’ talk in the General YW meeting last March she said: Write down your standards and only make those big decisions once.

2. Read the Book of Mormon Daily. Last week a young women at the 7th ward’s Night of Excellence bore a strong testimony of her experience reading the book of Mormon for her Virtue Value. It was a daunting undertaking at first, a little more than a 10 hour project. But how better to learn about Virtue than by gaining a testimony of the power of God and of feeling his spirit experienced through the reading of the Book of Mormon.

3. Pray to have the spirit for direction as a parent. Don’t start your day without a prayer.

4. Encourage youth to have their own current temple recommend. Many of our youth, including my 17 year old son, go to the temple every Wednesday morning before school to perform baptisms for the dead. Many of our youth have headed Elder Bednar’s advice and are turning their hearts to their fathers by doing indexing and family history.

5 Dress Modestly ALWAYS. Moms, girls model your example so always dress modestly! Be an example. Don’t buy that cute dress for the prom because it is just this once and she looks so cute. Start at an early age by carefully helping your girls choose their clothing.

The 2nd ward Laurels recently went on a shopping trip to look for and try on Modest Prom dresses. What they found out is, there aren’t very many of them. Even if you wear a jacket with them, many are still too low cut and suggestive. You may have to sew or alter a dress to make it modest. As a mother of several boys; I know how uneasy it is for young men when they are with a date that is not dressed appropriately.

Dad’s this is where you must heed the call to be Guardians of Virtue. Parents get on LDS.org and watch Sis. Daltons talk on Fathers being Guardians of Virtue from the October conference.

I appreciate my father trying to help me years ago in the late 70’s when hot pants and such were in style. He told me on occasion that I couldn’t go out looking like that or that I needed to wear longer shorts and cover myself. “ Oh Dad”, I would say, “that is all there is to buy; it is in style”.

One day I came home and found this sign hanging in my room. My Dad who had probable never picked up a marker in his life, went to the trouble to hand write this quote from Pres. David O. McKay, “ Dress Modestly, Your Heavenly Father is Watching. “ Do you think that I could tell that my father loved me? That he cared and that he was serious. Why do you think that I have saved this for 30 years?

I only wish that he would have gone a step farther and spoken to me about why I needed to dress modestly. I had no idea what immodest dress did to boys and men, what it caused them to think and feel. I just thought I was cute and in fashion.

Many youth today are having sex as casually as we used to hold hands. It is a game of personal selfishness where boys and girls get together and make out or sleep together as a sport. There is absolutely no commitment involved. I am with youth in our community and this is the reality they are in.

Just this week I learned of two more of my students who are now expecting a baby. I spoke with one l young girl on Thursday and asked her if the Young man was still in her life. She answered yes; I was happy to hear that because it is quite rare that young men hang around. Then I asked her how long they had been dating. She replied that had been 10 days!

Everything our youth see portrayed in the media is distorted from real love and relationships. You must teach them in your home about the sacredness of procreation, the importance of relationships, and the difference between lust and love. I attended a class at Education Week and was shocked to hear of the many disciplinary actions because of immorality among our “good kids” attending BYU.

The Strength of Youth Pamphlet does not become obsolete when youth turn 18. It becomes even more needed. When our kids go off and away to college; they are faced with temptations of all kinds in the real world. Do not participate in passionate kissing, do not lay down by one another and watch movies, do not participate in NCMO sessions. (Non committal make out sessions)

Sister Dalton tells fathers, if your daughter doesn’t come home on time, “Go and get her!” I remember my father coming down and pulling me over when I was dragging main in Logan, and telling me to get home. I was mad at him at the time; but again, I knew that he loved me and cared about me.

I love Boyd K. Packer’s recent conference talk, “Counsel to Youth”. He tells of joining the Air Force and being worried about going into war and if he’d come home alive. He received a patriarchal blessing promising him that IF he heeded the promptings of the Holy Ghost and kept the commandments that he would return home again to be united with his loved ones. That was a big IF. We have that same promise given to us, IF we do these things and live worthily, we can return and live with our families and with God again.

In 1 Nephi 18, Nephi sets out to try and build the ship, with no knowledge or experience. (Think about raising your family here) Nephi says, and the Lord did show me from time to time after what manner I should work the timbers of the ship. (Think General Conference twice a year) Nephi says, “I did not work the timbers after the manner which was learned by men, neither did I build the ship after the manner of men; but I did build it after the manner which the Lord had shown unto me; wherefore, it was not after the manner of men.

This is the key to raising families in today’s turbulent world. We cannot follow the manner of man. We have the scriptures, we have the word of the Living prophets, and if we keep the commandments and the covenants we’ve made, we MAY always have his spirit to be with us. Covenants are a two way promise and if becomes a big IF.

Brothers and sister, I testify that if we read the Book of Mormon daily, step up our efforts in our families and be true Guardians of Virtue, we can return with our families to live with our Heavenly Father again. May you resolve tonight to take something that has spoken to you through the spirit and try a little harder to be a little better; our children’s futures are at stake.

Since I am a teacher, I want to end by giving you a homework assignment.

1. Get your teenagers together on a Sunday night or for Family night and watch Pres. Packer’s “Council to the Youth” talk from October conference. Talk about the big IF.

2. Sit down one on one with your youth and watch Chastity: What are the limits? On YouTube or youth.lds.org. and then have a candid conversation with your kids.

3. Help your kids know the Savior and apply the atonement in their lives.

4. Lastly , Men, watch and listen to Sis. Dalton’s talk about being Guardians of Virtue, She says, “how can a father raise a happy, well-adjusted daughter in today’s increasingly toxic world? The answer has been taught by the Lord’s prophets. …The most important thing a father can do for his daughter is to love her mother.”

Elder Scott put it this way in April Conference, “Tell your wife how very much you love her. Don’t withhold those natural expressions of love. And it works a lot better if you are holding her close while you tell her.

5. If you are married your assignment is to go home and passionately kiss your wife. ..because you can!

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Return and Report

In John 17 Christ offers the great intercessory prayer. In the first part of his prayer, Jesus described the things he had done toward fulfilling his mission. How might if affect our actions if each night we included in our prayers a report of our efforts to serve him during that day?

The church is really set up on this Return and Report pattern. In the temple we are shown this pattern, in the Priesthood and auxiliary programs it is followed, and we should do the same thing with our prayers. Every morning I check in and kind of give an over view and pray for help and guidance in my days activities. Then at the close of the day, I report in my evening prayer how I did. I try not to forget to give thanks for the help that I am given. Knowing that I need to give this daily report helps me to try my hardest to live a satisfactory life and accomplish my daily goals.

Try the Return and Report method in your prayers and hopefully you'll find greater accomplishment and live closer to our Father's commandments.

Great Examples of Service

I want to share an experience Dan had on Sunday morning, July 3, 2011.

He was attending a Stake Bishop's training at 6:30 am with all of the eleven ward Bishoprics in our stake. Pres. Topham, our stake president, was speaking to them about how to teach youth to be service oriented. Dad kind of had his head down and was offering a prayer that Andrew would make it home safely from the early morning paper route he has been doing. He leaves at 2:30 every morning and drives down to Mesquite and through the little towns close by helping Sam Fullerton deliver the Las Vegas Review Journal and the Spectrum. He has been substituting for Mac Fullerton who is having surgery.

Andrew would probably be driving home through the gorge at that time. Dad was just finishing his prayer when Pres. Topham said that great examples of young men who willing give service are the Flake boys, Dawson and Andrew! He went on to say what fine young men they are and how they are always serving others so willingly.

That was a very kind complement given to our boys and of course to Dan who has trained them so well. The cool thing is that here Dawson was out at this time serving a full time mission and Andrew was out performing service for his home teaching family. Andrew most likely wouldn't be doing this job if it wasn't for the fact that he is helping out the Fullerton's while Mac has his surgery.

I am so proud of you great young men!

Keep serving with a smile!